How to be
Happy
by Jaime
Munt
The first
thing you need to know in beating unhappiness is who your enemy is or,
in other words, what is making you feel bad.
Find out your
options for removing the problem, and then finally enforcing the plan
that you have constructed.
Think of it
as a war…
Stage One: Know your enemy
For sadness: there are a lot of things that can make you feel lousy.
Did you have a fight with a friend or enemy? Did you do poorly in a
class? Are you anxious about how you will make it financially? Did someone
you know get sick or die? These are just some of the things that you
might recognize as the cause of your sadness.
For sickness: Once
again, there are a lot of things that could be against you here. Your
enemies in this area can couple with things that make you sad, or stand
alone as formidable enemies.
The weakest of these
enemies is feeling a little sick from eating too much, or drinking too
much; that can be serious to a high enough degree but not as serious
as if they come in the form of allergies, a cold, or flu. Or more seriously,
your sickness could be an STD or maybe cancer…
Stage Two: Forming a Plan
The first thing to do at this stage is to establish some defenses. This
means talking to a friend or close member of your family about how you
are feeling and the concerns that you have for your situation.
Get yourself some allies
that will back you up, just knowing that someone cares about you can
be enough to start making you feel a little better. And nothing tops
knowing that someone understands how you’re feeling.
The second thing is to maybe
take the first step a bit further, by looking into some professional
help, a doctor, psychiatrist, or even a school counselor. It is important
to get yourself some back up that have dealt with what you are so they
will know what you can expect and talk you through it each step of the
way.
A few other things (no more
or less useful than other two) are to do some research on the “enemy”
and read about how other people have dealt with it.
You should also go somewhere
you feel comfortable (whether your room or a place in the park that
will give you the familiarity and comfort that you might need). If you
are away at college and maybe haven’t established a place like
this yet, try to get to someone who makes you feel that way or call
them.
Stage Three: Going to War!!!
Okay, you have the advice, you maybe even have some research or prescription
medicine to help you on your way, but whatever arms you have to raise
against your adversary, now is the time to use them… you’re
going to war.
Keep your head up and keep
on fighting until you find success… whether physical, emotional
or spiritual, they are all worthy victories.
We all know that things don’t
always work out right, but attitude and determinism are the strongest
weapons that you can use, and they are the same tools that will help
through sickness, sadness or anything that obstructs the way of life
that you want to live.
Links to
Other Happy Sites:
How
to be Depressed, How to be happy
How
to be Happy
How
to be Happy (Truth Trees Guide to Rational Living)
Best
Inspiration from the Net
Links to
Some Professionals:
The
Web M.D.
Ask
Happy Shrink
Phone
Therapy
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Eyes Open
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Suicide
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Place
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